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Quick answer
There is no single age at which a child decides parenting arrangements. A child’s views may be considered, with weight depending on factors such as maturity, understanding and the circumstances in which the views were expressed, while the child’s best interests and safety remain central.
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What to do now
- Do not pressure the child: Avoid coaching, repeated questioning or asking the child to choose between parents.
- Record relevant concerns: Keep objective information about safety, wellbeing, development and current arrangements.
- Use appropriate channels: Ask about family reports, an Independent Children’s Lawyer or other child-focused processes where relevant.
- Focus on best interests: Frame proposals around safety, stability, relationships and the child’s individual needs rather than a fixed age rule.
Transcript
will a child's opinion be considered with how much time they want to spend with mum and dad? Well that really depends a lot on the child. Each child's different obviously. It can depend on their maturity, their social circumstances, so there's no set age as such. If you think that your child's opinion should be taken into account as to how much time they should be spending with either parent then come and get some advice from us and we can let you know how that will suit your case.
Current sources
Sources checked 4 September 2026.
Important
This page provides general information only; it is not legal advice and does not take account of your circumstances. The embedded video is a historical recording. Laws, court arrangements, procedures, fees, deadlines and official guidance can change. Check the current sources above and obtain advice from a qualified lawyer about your situation.